Anyone who has lived with a romantic partner – or on this issue – knows finding this happy balance domestic workforce Not easy.
I admit it has been a great disappointment for me in many earlier situations, from former partners to platonic roommates. I have often felt resented that I had to take up most of household workTo. In recent years, we and my husband have finally found a solution to achieve the natural balance that is suitable for us. We divide the tasks and household into two main areas: cooking and cleaning.
This is something that may seem too simple or too good to be true. But we've been doing this for a few years and it really relieves the stress and tension that many of my friends and co -workers look like they are experiencing Household Work DepartmentTo.
We found a strategy that works
In the past I have tried to apply detailed harvesting lists And weekly schedules, but they never seemed to work. I believe that this is because they always include at least one task that seems unpleasant to the authorized, so that they are more likely to put down or avoid it completely. This is not a problem with our current approach, because we both take our tasks we prefer.
I'm a pure weird relationship. I annoy when I see a sweater that is not properly folded, and when I see a stain or sign on the work surface, I want to wipe it right away. I clean up According to my own schedule, doing daily tidy and light cleansing, as I see, and the weekly deeper. I also take care of lingerie, trash and recycling. It is guided and enjoyable to me, and our home always feels clean and tidy.
On the other side of our household spectrum is the informal title of my husband chefTo. He likes to experiment in the kitchen by improving our basic recipesAnd he really enjoys buying grocery stores. I feel relieved that meals and groceries are one of the less things I have to worry about, and his cooking is always delicious.
Since then I have felt more calm and cared for and our relationship has become calmer.
We are still flexible
We are not always completely rigid in our domains. I make dinner when he feels badly or exhausted after a long day at work. When he notices a dirty or dirty area that needs immediate attention, he whips the cleaning spray. But overall, he can keep our home clean and I can hope to make our meals and keep our meals fridgeTo.
We also have a dog who generally shares maintenance tasks depending on schedule. One of us always works from home, so the one who is with him during the day takes care of his food, training and bathroom needs. Maintenance tasks such as baths, nail trims and veterinarians are generally alternated or done.
It all concerns teamwork
This state of domestic bliss has come as a result of the time of touch and mistake. We inevitably dealt with the learning curve when we got used to each other's habits and preferences when we first started living together In 2019. My husband worked in the evenings at the time, so I cooked a lot more at the time. I felt an imbalance in the earlier stages of our relationship, but thanks to honest communication and experiments, we have come up with a strategy that suits us.
At the end of the day, household work is related to teamwork. It becomes less cleaning if you find ways to make it enjoyable and take into account each other's strengths. Sharing this domain is exactly how we achieve it.
