Anyone who lived with a romantic partner – or someone else, moreover – will be able to find a happy balance inner work is not easy.
I admit that it was a great source of frustration for me in many past life situations, from ex-partner to Platonic roommates. I have often felt resentment of having to take a larger share of domestic work. In recent years, my husband and I have finally found a solution to obtain a natural balance that works for us. We have divided the tasks and tasks into two main areas: cooking and cleaning.
This is something that may seem too simple or too beautiful to be true. However, we have been doing it for a few years now, and it really lies up stress and tension that many of my friends and colleagues seem to experience Household Labor Division.
We found a strategy that works
In the past, I tried to implement chore lists And weekly hours, but they never seemed to work. I think it is because they always seem to contain at least one task that seems unattractive for the assignee, so they are more likely to repel it or to avoid it fully. With our current approach, this is not a problem because we learn each of the tasks we prefer.
I am the clean monster of the relationship. I am bored when I see a sweater that is not folded properly, and if I see a stain or a brand on a counter, I want to wipe it immediately. I clean up Under my schedule, do daily and light cleaning as I seem good, as well as a deeper weblodad. I also take care of laundry, waste and recycling. It is manageable and pleasant for me, and our house always feels clean and tidy.
On the other side of our household specter, my husband has the unofficial title of chief chief. He likes to experience in the kitchen, perfect our basic recipesAnd he really likes races. I feel relieved that meals and grocery store are a less thing I need to worry about, and its kitchen is always delicious.
Since I did this, I felt more relaxed and taken care of, and our relationship has become more peaceful.
We are always flexible
We are not always completely rigid in our areas. I will dine if he feels bad or exhausted after a long day of work. He will take out the cleaning sprays if he notices a disorderly or dirty area that needs immediate attention. But overall, he can count on me to keep our house clean, and I can count on him to prepare our meals and keep the stored refrigerator.
We also have a dog, for which we generally divide the care tasks to depend on our schedules. One of us always works at home, so the one who is with her during the day will take care of her food, exercise and bathroom needs. Care tasks such as baths, nail trim and veterinary visits are generally alternate or made together.
It's all about teamwork
This state of domestic happiness came from time alongside tests and errors. We have inevitably dealt with a learning curve when we got used to the habits and preferences of the other when we I started to live together In 2019. My husband worked at the time, so I cooked much more at the time. I felt an imbalance in the previous stages of our relationship, but thanks to honest communication and experimentation, we have found a strategy that works for us.
In the end, household work concerns teamwork. It becomes less a chore when you find ways to make it pleasant and when you take into account the strengths of each other. Dividing it in areas is exactly the way we have succeeded.
